I won't lie. It's been a bit chaotic here at The Living Herb over the last few months. The annual family holiday was swiftly followed by dealing with serious family illness and the stark realisation that I had taken on too much.
We all do it. Even the most careful planners among us have lapses where we double book, realise we've planned things for multiple weekends in a row, or seem have so much going on in our lives that we feel overwhelmed.
It's easy to get sucked in too. When we are dealing with emotional difficulties, the distraction of being busy lures us into a false sense of security.
And what's worse is that being busy is prized in our society. Starting with the old adage "the devil makes light work of idle hands." Through to something I commonly see:
"How are you?"
But when we hide behind being busy, when we don't allow space into our life, we neglect ourselves. We don't allow ourselves to connect with how we really are, both physically and emotionally. We lose sight of our loved ones as we flit from one thing to another, never really connecting to them. We lose sight of our very being.
So how do we recover?
This evening I asked myself that very question as for the first night in a month I had a night off. I didn't have to go anywhere, see anyone or do anything. And it was terrifying!
I sent a message to a friend "I've got nothing I need to do and I don't know what to do." My fingers hovered over the TV remote - do I distract myself? Instead I stopped..... well I gently eased myself into stopping by reading a book. And after an hour I was able to slip into a hot bath and feel the space.
As women we tend to neglect the importance of allowing ourselves space, we neglect that need. And yet to embrace our feminine power, we need space. Because it is in that space that it grows. In nurturing our space, we connect with our innate wisdom and are able to rise to life's challenges.
There are many ways we can find that space
- A soak in the bath
- A walk in the park
- Doing something creative
To name just a few. Anything that gives us time alone to daydream and just be.
Even if it's just 5 minutes, I invite you to connect with space.